Last night, I got two text messages at the same exact time. One called me a derogatory name. One told me I was awesome. Guess what happened next?
Guess which one I believed.
Which one did I think about last before I went to sleep and first when I woke up? Which one has formed my entire day and all the moments it consisted of today?
I’ll give you a hint. It wasn’t the one that told me I was awesome.
In fact, I responded to that one and said, “I don’t know about that.” Why? Because I believed the other text message.
Our words matter, friends. It doesn’t matter that you’re kidding. It doesn’t matter that you are upset. It doesn’t matter than you’re tired or hungry or stressed.
There are no neutral words. Every single word you utter either gives life or takes it away.
Scroll through your text logs. Inbox. Instagram feed. Are your words encouraging the people around you? Do people see and experience Jesus in what you say?
If the answer isn’t yes, then do something different. Stop and think before you speak (or type). Imagine you are receiving the message you’re sending. How would it make you feel? Can’t think of anything life-giving to say to a person? Then start praying for them.
Last winter, I had a hard time speaking positively about certain people in my life. I would crash into my counselors’ offices week in and week out and just ramble on and on about these people that I had no right to be disrespectful about. Finally, one of them stopped me one day and gave me a new routine. Every time I started to speak negatively about these people, I was to stop what I was doing and pray for them, their families and their hearts. You’d be amazed how quickly I started finding a lot of positive about them. My relationships with those people have completely changed. Why? Because I stopped speaking death over them and our relationships.
Your words matter.
Bonus? This is one of the things I talk about in my book. I can’t wait for you guys to read it! It’s a process but the more I write, the more I realize God has such an incredible plan for those who will read it.