I am for people – and I am for them one at a time.
It’s really that simple.
I don’t care if you are an anonymous person in a chat room, a cashier at a grocery store, a homeless man on the interstate ramp, a frazzled single mom, a rebellious teenager, a Fortune 500 CEO, or a potential homebuyer in Knoxville. No matter who you are, what your story is or where you are headed, I am FOR you.
While I’ve always been about helping people and loving people well, I haven’t always known what I was for. In fact, it was just in the last few years that I was able to put my heart under a microscope and find out that the thing that fuels me is people and their stories.
And to take it a step further, it’s to see people owning their stories. Stories are the heart of every great thing happening around us. Stories are the mirrors we have to reflect God’s goodness to the world. Stories are how we connect with others. Stories are the tools we have to leave our mark in the world.
When I learned what (or in my case, who) I was for, everything else got easier. Way easier. I stopped having to chase someone else’s purpose and I started falling into mine. Knowing that I am for people and their stories changed the way I do every single thing in my life.
It’s why I work so hard to help people own their stories. Because I believe that owning your story allows you to live in confidence for your purpose.
So what are you for? Who are you for? Maybe you owning your story and living in confidence is about being FOR the people in your house. Or maybe you are for a group of high school football players. Or maybe you are for the people of your company, neighborhood, team, church, city, state, country or the world.
It really doesn’t matter. But no matter who you are or what you do/want to do, the first thing you have to do is find out who or what you’re for.
I’m going to help you out. If you can’t figure this out on your own, find out what people think you’re for. It’s not hard. Just ask them.
“When you think of me, what do you think I’m about?”
Here’s a hint.
If the answer is “yourself” or “I don’t know,” you should fix that really fast.
It doesn’t matter what you want to be about or what you think about yourself. If people think you are all about yourself and for yourself, they won’t trust you. Your kids won’t trust your. Your clients won’t trust you. Your players won’t trust you.
When you are for other people, you earn their trust and respect. And that’s priceless.
If you have to tell people what you are for and try to manipulate them into believing you, you’re just smoke and mirrors.
Know what you’re for. And then put it in front of you. On your phone, mirror, desk, dash, fridge. I don’t care – just plaster it in front of you everywhere you can. And every single decision you make should run through that filter.
For more on the idea of knowing what you’re for, you should definitely read Jeff Henderson’s book on the subject. It’s seriously one of the best business books I’ve ever read but really – it’s just a really great read for anyone!
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